Think of as many labels as you can. You might be faced with twenty or thirty yous. Consider how much you're defined by them. How much of your sense of who you are is vested in each one? In which of your roles do you feel the most you? Most fulfilled? Most alive? Which of them do you feel most passionately about? Which do you feel are most important? Not in terms of priority but in terms of identity ... being a stranger is more a part of me than being a godmother.

-- Caroline McHugh

Priority versus Identity. You can spend much of your time being a son, a brother or even an engineer. But that does not have to define you.